The hidden secret

Now I am going to give away the secret of how you can make sex last as long as you want.

From the book:

Fundamentally the problem is that we don’t know what real sex is. And we don’t know what real sex is because we don’t know how to live in the moment, especially with another person.

We are ‘in our heads,’ in imagination most of the time. We are somewhere else. We don’t really inhabit our bodies.

In simple terms, if we want real sex, we have to be there.

Our habitual mind is full of associated thoughts, worries about tomorrow and replays of what happened yesterday. In addition, during sex we may have anxieties about not satisfying our woman, or fantasies which we do not share with her. We are controlled by these thoughts, they carry us along, and we have no control. The combination of anxiety and fantasy, unconnected with what is happening in the present moment, leads as often as not to premature ejaculation.

It seems strange to say that living in the present moment is something we have to learn, but it is true.

The heart of the method I detail in my book involves experiencing yourself, really being in your body without unnecessary thoughts, and being present to your woman. By focussing on her pleasure and forgetting about our own, you can, paradoxically, experience much more pleasure yourself, and with practice, control when you come.

There is a lot more in my book, but that is the heart of it.

Due to an error on my part the book is listed on Amazon at £19.00. From early February the price should be listed at its intended price of £9.97 (US$ 15.50). There are people out there who would charge you a lot more for a method of preventing premature ejaculation. Try this first. It works.

Amazon link: Last as Long as You Want in Bed


It’s normal

From the book:

In one international study the amount of time a man could last with his penis inside his woman’s vagina varied from 30 seconds to 44 minutes, with a median (average) time of only 5.4 minutes.

The study was confined to couples in stable relationships of at least six months and for what it’s worth they had sex on average about twice a week.

Almost all the men lasted less than ten minutes, although a very small number of men seemed to be able to go on as long as they wanted to.

The same study showed that older men on average last slightly less long than younger men, the averages being about six and a half minutes for men aged 18-30, five and a half minutes for men aged 31-50, and four and a half minutes for men aged 51 and over.

So it’s common and normal. I’ll bet very few males are born with the ability to control when they ejaculate. I’ll also bet that most men are quite capable of learning how to control ejaculation. So it’s a skill that can be learned.

To control when you come means you can prolong sex long enough to satisfy your partner and long enough to give yourself as much pleasure as you want.

I’ll say more about how soon.

Lasting longer, becoming a better lover

From the introduction to Last as long as you want in bed – five steps to overcoming premature ejaculation and to regaining control:

Do you want to be a better lover and give your woman more pleasure during sex?

Maybe you don’t suffer from coming too quickly all the time or maybe you’re already pretty good in bed but would like to hold on longer. Or just maybe you’re new to the whole tricky business of sex and don’t want to mess up a beautiful relationship by not satisfying your woman. In all these cases there is something in this guide to help you. You can be the man your woman wants in bed.

If she is happy, you’ll be happy.

Feeling sexually potent is important to every adult male. That feeling spills over into other areas of life, making you feel both more content and more successful. And success breeds success. If you’re more confident in this crucial area of your life, you’ll very likely be more confident and successful in other areas too.

A key part of giving your woman more pleasure is not coming too quickly. Women often need more time than men to become aroused, and to give her more pleasure you need as much time as you can get. This guide will tell you how to control when you come during sex.

This method is subtitled ‘It’s not about you,’ because to become a better lover you need to focus on her pleasure.

Needless to say, prolonging sex will give you more pleasure too.