True love versus the quick fling:
The waking share one world in common, but each sleeper turns away to a world of his own. – Heraclitus (6th century BC)
Do we separate mind, heart and body when we have sex?
The best sex is when mind, heart and body are all involved together. Without the involvement of the heart, sex is merely mechanical pleasure.
A ‘sleeper’ in Heraclitus’s meaning is not necessarily one who is physically asleep, but one who is asleep to the reality of now, not here in body and mind, away with the fairies, in imagination of things not present.
Being truly present to your beloved is to enjoy a union far more pleasurable than the mere friction of body parts. At the same time, being present is the only way fully to enjoy the physical pleasures of sex.