Rush-hour crush

Big mistake:

“To the girl with dark hair eating an apple on the bus. You took the 13 bus to Clapham at 7pm on Tuesday and I think you took my heart with you. I wanted to approach you but you were with your friend. Fancy a coffee sometime? – Shy Guy in the red tie”

(Adapted from entries in the section in the morning newspaper where such people write in.)

How does the woman’s friend stop Shy Guy from offering a meeting over coffee? Answer: she doesn’t.

What’s Shy Guy’s chance of getting a date with this woman? Probably close to zero.

What should he have done instead?

It’s obvious isn’t it? Yet every day there are a handful of these messages in the newspaper, from women too. I’ve read these in Canada, so it’s not just a London thing.

Think about it. Shy Guy goes up to woman and says “hi.” No smarmy or creepy or clever lines. Especially not, “You’re so beautiful, please go out with me” (which will never work unless she’s desperate). Just “hi.”

Of course, he’ll have to follow through with something further, depending on what she says. But his back stop line could be as simple as, “I just saw you and thought I’d say hi. My name’s Shy Guy, what’s yours?”

If she’s not interested, he can pick up the cues and not be annoying, smile and withdraw gracefully. What’s to lose? We act as though the sky will fall in if some woman isn’t interested. Done properly and lightheartedly, this incident will brighten up her day – even if you’re not her type.

One more comment until I return to this topic in due course: being confident and saying “hi” gives a much more powerful message than a line in the newspaper.


10 hot tips for lasting longer in bed

book cover

10 hot tips for lasting longer in bed will be available very soon for the Amazon Kindle and compatible e-readers.

This illustrated e-booklet explains where a woman’s most sensitive sexual areas are and how you can use this knowledge to make her come before you do. (22 pages, 7 diagrams.)

Most of the material in this e-booklet is extracted from my book Last as long as you want in bed. I wanted to make 10 hot tips free for the Kindle, but it seems there is no easy way of doing that, so it will be priced at 99¢ and whatever the equivalent is in the UK (about 75p right now).

If you prefer you can download the booklet completely free as a pdf now.